drbd: fix hang on local read errors while disconnected

"canceled" w_read_retry_remote never completed, if they have been
canceled after drbd_disconnect connection teardown cleanup has already
run (or we are currently not connected anyways).

Fixed by not queueing a remote retry if we already know it won't work
(pdsk not uptodate), and cleanup ourselves on "cancel", in case we hit a
race with drbd_disconnect.

Signed-off-by: Philipp Reisner <philipp.reisner@linbit.com>
Signed-off-by: Lars Ellenberg <lars.ellenberg@linbit.com>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <jaxboe@fusionio.com>